Generation Gap

A generation gap is always used as a front for teenagers or kids to explain their parent’s obnoxious ideas and as proof for the injustice they seem to be suffering from the parents’ restraints and rules. It’s the most common as well as the most deep-rooted issue that the 21st century seems to be facing. But here’s some food for thought – Why is the “generation gap” ideology becoming popular in the recent times when the concept of an age difference is here since light? Is it that our ancestors did not feel the miscommunication and diversified ideas that we face? Did they not have their own thinking? Or were they too obedient to do anything about it? Has the latest technology and exposure to children in today’s world led to such circumstances? Your guess is as good as mine.

When it comes to me, I’m always bewildered by this concept. And like any faithful teenager I too believe in the concept of “parents-don’t-understand”. But thinking deep into it, there seems to be a lot of untouched ground in the huge controversy surrounding this subject. Sure understood that the people in the earlier years never were exposed to the outside world, so they did not know a belief other than what they were taught. It was always put to them that what is taught is right. And people who dared to think otherwise or cultivate a doubt in their head were brutally assassinated. There are too many gore stories for us to ignore how backward and narrow minded was the environment back then.
Coming to the 21st century: No matter what, I admire the youth for their courage to think different. Today, I believe that the generation gap is at its peak due to the increasing acceptance of the word “different but ONE”. In today’s world not only has the youth started to think that each one is different with their varied principles and varied beliefs but it also begun to accept this difference as a part of society. The gays, lesbians and transvestites laws are a standing proof to the matter. This is where the whole conflict arose.

Our parents were brought up in a society that laid down a few norms, a few rules. And it is but natural that it was instilled in their mind that these norms are acceptable and following them means ensuring a good reputation in society. And it is totally acceptable as at every stage in history, it can be seen how man is a follower of design. There has to be a bureaucratic layout. It emits regulation and discipline. And that’s how citizens of society remain mentally stable as they have something to believe in. In today’s world however, the thought process that goes behind in this: The society has been created for specific similar minded people. It does not give the scope or flexibility for diverse people to live freely. Hence, emerged the concept of live by your own rules and take charge of your own life.
There can be million debates and discussions on why this occurs. But the question is, who is right? Is it the elder generation who has a dignified, unified and principalized way of thinking? Or is it the younger generation who want to break all rules to defend their integrity and right to freedom? Is it ethical for parents to chastise the younger lot because they exude rebel in their everyday life? Is it right for the children to brand their parents wrong without understanding their way of thinking? I believe that generation gaps are going to occur. No one can stop it. A broad vision and an understanding nature can make a monumental difference. But the residents of this society are very comfortable in the bubble created by them or the society. A systemized approach can change the dynamics of todays society. Point is, will we try to change it? Will we stop defending our opinions and try accepting the other? Or will the society perish into two different ideologies bound together by destiny but broken by choice?

Guest writer – TK

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Parents and their lives with kids 

The Oxford dictionary defines parenthood as “a state of being a parent and responsibilities involved”

If only living it were that simple. According to me parenthood is a word which cannot be defined. It is a never ending process till your demise.

Becoming a mother/ father is easy. Living like a parent is another story.

For each child, their parents are role models for them. As they grow up they understand the sacrifices their parents have made to raise them the way they are. The learnings they have bestowed so that their children can be better parents. 

We have children because of various reasons. For happiness, for the logical next step, for family. However once we have them in our lives, we fail to realise that WE LIVE FOR THEM. It’s good to love your child but not to the extent where they rule your life and it becomes your duty to fulfil their each and every demand. Our love for them should not overpower our duty to groom them to be a good human being.

It’s good to introduce discipline and orderliness in your kids life but never at the cost of your own. It should never Result in cancelling all social gatherings for a few years and living in isolation, revolving your life around your kids schedule.

Are we making our child capable to face a situation independently in the future? Or we making them dependent on us? Are we ensuring they can take cognizance of a bad situation and work their way around it? Or are we letting them assume we are at their beck and call at all times?

On the other hand parents also have to change their life style if they want to be a role model. A balance needs to be struck.

It’s good to remember that children are an extension to our life but do not replace them with your life. 

It’s good to teach lessons to our kids but we also have to ensure they learn few by themselves. We should be always there for them, support them but we should also let them fall and let them get up on their own. Protecting them is different from coddling them. 

Life teaches us the best lessons. But we have to remember that we live to fight another day. Always.