Parents and their lives with kids 

The Oxford dictionary defines parenthood as “a state of being a parent and responsibilities involved”

If only living it were that simple. According to me parenthood is a word which cannot be defined. It is a never ending process till your demise.

Becoming a mother/ father is easy. Living like a parent is another story.

For each child, their parents are role models for them. As they grow up they understand the sacrifices their parents have made to raise them the way they are. The learnings they have bestowed so that their children can be better parents. 

We have children because of various reasons. For happiness, for the logical next step, for family. However once we have them in our lives, we fail to realise that WE LIVE FOR THEM. It’s good to love your child but not to the extent where they rule your life and it becomes your duty to fulfil their each and every demand. Our love for them should not overpower our duty to groom them to be a good human being.

It’s good to introduce discipline and orderliness in your kids life but never at the cost of your own. It should never Result in cancelling all social gatherings for a few years and living in isolation, revolving your life around your kids schedule.

Are we making our child capable to face a situation independently in the future? Or we making them dependent on us? Are we ensuring they can take cognizance of a bad situation and work their way around it? Or are we letting them assume we are at their beck and call at all times?

On the other hand parents also have to change their life style if they want to be a role model. A balance needs to be struck.

It’s good to remember that children are an extension to our life but do not replace them with your life. 

It’s good to teach lessons to our kids but we also have to ensure they learn few by themselves. We should be always there for them, support them but we should also let them fall and let them get up on their own. Protecting them is different from coddling them. 

Life teaches us the best lessons. But we have to remember that we live to fight another day. Always.

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How to embrace Solitude

It’s not that difficult to tell yourself, “I’m not alone, I have myself.”

You have to remember that you have yourself. All the time.

Do we ever question ourself, “Why do I need someone else when I have myself?” 

You don’t really need anybody else. You need to love yourself and the way you are. You know what makes you happy, sad, excited or bored. What else do you need?

No one will love you unless you love yourself. 

No one will respect you unless you respect yourself. 

No one will be kind to you unless you are kind to yourself. 

Work hard but not to prove it to anyone but yourself.

Greatness need not be proved. It will be recognised by others 

Believe in YOU and the world will too!

You don’t need company for a movie, lunch, dinner or any outing if you are content with yourself. 

Don’t compromise for the sake of others. Today parents compromise for their children. Spouses compromise for their better half. 

Live a little for yourself as well, instead of sacrificing and compromising all your life. Sacrifice and compromises are a part of life but they should not allow you to lose your identity at any point of time.

The above will result in lack of confidence and a lack of interest in life.

Be yourself for yourself. 

Don’t try to please someone in exchange of yourself. 

Don’t try to compete with anyone but yourself. 

Don’t try to imitate any one as they are not you and you can not be replaced. 

Remember that you are equally important.

Have faith in yourself, love yourself. End this year with the best gift to you – YOU!

Betrayal 

She loved him. He said he loved her.

Got married to a girl of his parents’ choice. 

Convinced her that she would always be the special one and they’d be friends forever.

Madly in love with him, she believed each and every word. Life seemed bearable again. She had him in her life and that was all that mattered.

But life isn’t always what we make it to be. Her heart was broken into a thousand pieces when she found out that he dated someone else while he kept proclaiming his love to her.

Her self confidence was broken. She was broken.

But with time, she learnt that you need to love yourself first before you love others. If your love hurts and betrays you, then he does not truly love you and you must not be fooled.

Today she thanks him for all those scars that reminded her to become a wiser, happier version of herself. Today, she values her near and dear ones and this experience made her realise what truly matters to her.

Today those moments don’t matter, no one can break her and her confidence.

Only after being subjected to extreme pressure, a piece of coal turns into a diamond!